The day I become Mrs. B@bs has finally arrived.
It never really crossed my mind that this day will finally come, up until a year ago. Sure, I had day dreams of my fairytale wedding but I was jaded enough to believe that day dreams will always remain just that, a dream. Despite being the hopeless romantic and a big time day dreamer that I am, I have never seen myself going this far but I did. I know this post, these words, won’t give justice to this so much love and joy in me but I’ll give it a try anyway.
I must admit, I started building dreams of happy-ever-afters not long after G and I started going out. He was not what I expected (stereotyped, more like it) an Ang Moh or a man of the world would be. I expected indifference (which he surely showed me in our early dates) but he is sensitive and has a soft heart. I surely can see the ‘jerk’ in him which his good friends lovingly pointed out to me but he was never afraid to show me that softie side of him. I don’t know where I got this idea that Westerners are too independent that they ‘forget’ their families but I can saw that he wasn’t that kind. I was told before that in order for me to know how a guy will treat me, I should look at how he treats his mom – and no questions asked, he was great with his mom. And somehow he has restored my faith in men. True, I did not have that much experience to know how men (in general) are like but from what I saw from my friends and what little experience I had, men are not to be trusted and they will just cause me heartbreak. But with G I feel and know it’s different.
Everything that happened that day felt surreal. It was dreamlike, standing there beside the man I love, the man I was telling the whole universe about, the man I was secretly praying to God to be mine. That day was a dream come true. Everything felt right. Everything was perfect. It was just on that day that I realized that it’s not the gown, flowers nor the make-up that make a wedding perfect, it’s the union of two individuals, destined to be together, promising to each other in front of God, family and friends to make it to forever.
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The Venue: Changi Village Hotel
The Beach. Garden. The ROM offices. A reserved area in a cozy restaurant. The Singapore Flyer. I actually made a power point presentation for G of the venues I was eyeing to have our solemnization in. We decided to have it in Changi Village Hotel as Changi Village has always been a special place for us two: lots of quiet yet lovely evenings spent here, our first new year’s eve/new year’s day (the first couple hours of January 01 that is) was spent here, and that Christian Filipino café serving G’s kind of food (pies!).
The Wedding Dress and Everything That Goes With It.
I realized I didn’t have a peg for my dream wedding dress so I struggled a bit with choosing the dress. They say the dress is one of the most important bit for the bride. I would understand why, but for me, my aim is to be beautiful for that man waiting for me at the altar so that when he sees me walking down the isle, he won’t have regrets! 😉 I wasn’t happy with how my dress turned out-a bit too big for me (I think I over dieted), tailor didn’t follow my specifications and never told me that she’s making changes-but it somehow still did it’s part. I was covered, I didn’t look too fat, and G thought I was beautiful (probably with bias).
As for the color theme, it’s the shoes that did it. I came across that gorgeous pair of shoes online and knew our wedding should be in that color: Fig (Dark Pink) and Grey. Of course, Ivy’s wedding was an inspiration too, to the point of me being a copycat! Ha!
The Wedding Extras: Invites, Favours, Playlist Etc.
I enjoyed looking up on wedding invites and favours. I came across hundreds of wedding DIY ideas online and I’m definitely convinced that it’s best to be a DIY bride, to be hands-on for your own wedding. Well, only if you have all the time in the world, which I had. But I also learned that if you’re gonna be a DIY bride, you can’t be that on your wedding day! And you had to ask someone else to be in-charge. My MUAs were amazed, (gave me the title of SuperBride) at how I was doing things, everything last minute and mostly by myself, but I can’t take all the credit because I had help along the way. Of course, it would have helped a lot if people were on time (especially me-if I was on time because I wasn’t) (^_-). I wasn’t a calm bride like Ivy was on her wedding day. I had my last minute worries (the favours! where are my parents, it’s already 3! I’m not done with my vows! and all that jazz) but everything died down the moment I saw G standing there patiently waiting for me. But I was told he wasn’t that calm either! 😛
Our wedding playlist wasn’t that hard to choose because G and I have the same taste in music (almost): Jazz and Oldies. Here are some of the songs that were played that day:
I’ve Got A Crush on You by Frank Sinatra | Someone To Watch Over Me by Ella Fitzgerald | More by Andy Williams | It Had To Be You by Tony Bennett | Let’s Stay Together by Al Green | Can’t Take My Eyes Off You | The Girl (Man) I Love
And lastly, The Wedding Vows: (be warned, the editing is the cheesiest of all cheese, and them mushiest of all mush!)
If that day was the happiest day of his life, for me it was the day of answered prayers. He is my answered prayer.
He never fails to make me feel loved. | He is always there to wipe away my tears and hold me close.| He is the only person I can talk to about all things (except for things pertaining to him. :P). | His assurance and support always gives me strength. | He brings out the best in me even though he knows and have seen my worst.
G, Thank you for being my constant companion. Thank you for being my best friend. Thank you for being my lover. Most of all, thank you for saying I Do, for that promise of forever and spending the rest of our days together.
G and I have a personal blog that is password protected and has only two readers. We always make it a point to update it as often as we can. After the wedding G posted a message and I just want to share some bits of it with you.
The Happiest Day of My Life by G
If anybody had ever asked me before which was the happiest day of my life, I would have found it difficult to answer. A few contenders spring to mind, but nothing really stands out as the happiest and best day of my life. I remember vividly winning the Opera Contest on Chinese TV in 2002. I recall fondly certain days spent during travels: a mountainside in Tibet, lying in the grass in one of Rome’s parks, and walking by the West Lake in Hangzhou after graduation knowing at that time I didn’t have any worries. I also have many happy memories with you: our first kiss by the taxi, watching the night sky on Marina Barrage, and (one of my favourites) racing in an open-top truck through the jungle as we headed to the East Coast of Tioman. As wonderful those memories are, they will all from now on pale into insignificance next to my wedding day with you.
I was close to tears many times throughout that day. While waiting for you to arrive I was panicking and nervous, as I had been all day waiting and waiting for the big event. I truly could have cried half a dozen times during the exchange of vows. Seriously, I don’t know how I did not manage to break down when I recited the Song of Solomon to you. It was the hardest speech I have ever had to do since my Uncle Alan’s funeral. Listening to your vows and your declaration of love was also a difficult task to do whilst trying to prevent a flood of tears. You may be an “ordinary girl”, but to me you are always extraordinary.
You looked so beautiful as your father brought you over to me. This wonderful girl – radiating with warmth – nervously making her way to join with me. This would have been the defining moment, although it was bettered by that magical “first” kiss as we became husband and wife and joined lips. My heart melted at that moment and all my dreams came true. Finally, I was united with JBibs, as I always knew I would be when I first set eyes on her…
…I promise that I will try to recapture the happiness and love of that day as much as possible. I will stand by my sacred vows always that I made in front of everybody. Jbibs: I vow again that I will be loyal to you, support you, love you, and be as close to you as your own shadow. I will stand by my promise to your family that I will take good care of you, not just financially, but emotionally and with all my heart. You gave me the greatest gift of the happiest day of my life and the perfect wife. I will never forget that Jbibs. Thank you for being my beautiful wife. I love you Jbibs. I love you always.
Some Trivia and Random Thoughts:
(1) That walk down the isle is the most awkward moment of my life. I wish they weren’t looking at me!
(2) The Mentos mint with the quirky messages are only available in the Philippines. I saw it when I was traveling in Cebu last month, sent a photo of it to G and then decided to make it as one of our our wedding favours.
(3) The cost of my dress? Only around S$60! Weddings are more fun in the Philippines.
(4) Thank Yous: KZ for lending me your Instax and for being my Instax Photographer | Lot for the 100 instax film you gave me | Jill for the pieces of advice you gave me along the way | Charlene for the fantabulous cake | Christina and Cassandra of Fleur D’Sign for the wedding advice and for not panicking with me on that day | To mom and dad for accepting G and being so supportive of us, I honestly did not expect that | Ollie for being my Christmas and Wedding Champion | Ivy and Miko for agreeing to be my wedding photographers | Cho and Jinna for really helping out that day and for agreeing to be the Host | Andi and Joey for being a good friend to G and for agreeing to be our witness | Friends who flew all the way from UK and the PH and everyone who didn’t mind the heat that afternoon | I know there’s more people to thank so I’ll keep on updating this.
(5) I wrote my vows five minutes before the ceremony!
(6) I never had a proper dig on the food! I heard it was yummilicious!
(7) I was called ‘a bit dark’, ‘meaty’ by the stylists. Looking at it now, I guess I’m thankful that I’m not a Hei Ren nor was I called Fat. 😛
(8) To be honest, I don’t want another wedding celebration. That one time was more than perfect.